You may dismiss my thoughts on skinny shaming thinking "skinny girls are always used for clothes, to advertise products, and just basically anywhere to convey beauty". You're right , you are completely right. Still, believe it or not it is not easy being a skinny woman. (Honestly, the issue extends beyond skinny shaming and I'll explain that later.)
Skinny shaming is a very vulnerable subject for me to talk about. I've heard comments and insulting jokes about my size my whole life. It is really interesting that when someone says "you're so skinny" it's rarely said as a compliment. Being skinny has always been my insecurity but more so now in my twenties. Being shapely with curves is closely linked to being womanly. So me not being curvy and addition with rude comments about my size makes me feel like I'm lacking something in my womanhood. The way I feel may mostly be from over analyzing. Some may look at me and not see what I see, The true problem is this.. we live in a "black v.s white" world, meaning if you prefer one thing you have to diss the other. There is no "grey area". For example (true story) I had two friends; we'll name them Bria and Stacey for now, lol. We were trying on clothes at a store and nothing was fitting Bria right. As I was leaving the dressing room I overheard Bria saying "I wish I was Jasmine size nothing is fitting me, I'm so fat". To cheer her up Stacey said "Jasmine is super skinny, you'll even out soon. Plus guys dont like skinny girls" You see what I mean now? Stacey most likely didn't see anything wrong with what she said. She was just trying to make Bria feel better and reiterating the well known slogan "bones are for dogs, meat is for men". That's the true issue here... In this world its skinny v.s curvy, light skin v.s dark skin, straight hair v.s. curly, and cats v.s dog ( welllll..... I actually don't like cats all that much but you get the point). I'm not saying you CAN'T have a preference. But why not change "v.s" with "and" and celebrate variety? Dissing one category to make another category better is not the solution. It's the problem.
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I have a crazy brain... I think in quotes sometimes. Well.... more so like constantly thinking of different quotes and how to apply them in life. Then there are rare moments I make my own like a boss! "Creativity is boundless within boundaries; There has to be a box to think out of." - Jasmine Kimble Wanna know what inspired me to come up with this quote? It was Dr. Seuss. I read that he wrote The Cat in the Hat with 236 different words. Someone dared him he couldn't write a book with only 50 different words... and he did!! Green Eggs and Ham :-)
I use to work at 311 S. Wacker as an intercept clerk before I became this big time blogger. (Just kidding I'm still a newbie at this). This building was directly across the street from the Sears (Willis)Tower. My job was to take packages/mail up to the businesses, or take their outgoing mail back downstairs to the carriers.
So one day I was taking a envelope up to a company. I got on the elevator with a guy. I looked at him for a second then looked away then looked again (because it rude to stare). I'm thinking "I know this dude from somewhere." Then it popped in my head! I said: "Hey did anyone ever tell you that you look like that one rapper?..." I had a brainfart and couldn't remember the rapper name I continued: ".his name started with a 'M'". He chuckled and said "Macklemore?" Me: "Yea!! the mohawk!" HIm: *chuckled* "The face?" Me: "wow, yea the face too!" HIm: *laughing* The elevator stops on his floor and he gets off and says "Have a good day" I replied "You too"... My face went blank and I replayed the whole scenario in my head. WAS THAT REALLY MACKLEMORE?!?! I quickly denied it.. " Naw it can be him, he had no bodyguards". Then I thought "That had to be him because mostly everyone in this building wear suits or dress dressy". This dude had on dark washed jeans holded at the cuff, combat boots, a shirt, and a cardigan like sweater. Plus, I had been working in that building for a year and he didn't look familiar AT ALL. As soon as i got to my phone I googled if Macklemore was in Chicago. Guess what? HE WAS! He had a concert at the House of Blues that day. So to this day I don't know if that was him. I was so boggled I tweeted him and ask, but no reply. Was it him? If so why didn't he tell me? I guess I will never know. What do you think? Ok! So chilling on the couch with snacks watching Netflix is my guilty pleasure. Me and the Hubs live for a great show. Let me tell you whats good to watch so you can just skip past the rubbish... The OfficeI LOVE THIS SHOW!!! Steve Carell is freaking hilarious and is the main character. The show is about a paper company in Scranton, PA and it is documentary styled. Sounds boring? Trust me its far from it. I have literally cried laughing a couple of times. 3rd Rock from the SunWhen this show first came out (1996) I wasn't that interested. But now I can appreciate this quick witted-quirky type of humor. Dick, Harry, Sally and Tommy are actually aliens experiencing human life, such a different concept.
Once again I did something most people consider odd. But unlike other things like hobbies, taste of music, and interest, this "odd" thing was a life choice. I got married!! Sounds pretty normal right? I thought so too until people started asking my age right after seeing my ring finger. I'm 24 years old and according to society I'm too young to be settled down. They say I've lost my freedom and I'm supposed to be free and exploring the world!
Of course I don't believe that, but I am part of the generation called "millennial". If you're not familiar with that term it's the generation that was born from early 1980's to the early 2000's.The median age at first marriage is now 27 for women in 29 for men. That has increased greatly considering in 1960 it was 20 for women and 23 for men! So how do I feel being an oddball of my generation? I feel accomplished. Marriage isn't a ball and chain! Yes I can't just up and do stuff like I'm single, but thats so far from losing my freedom. I literally get to share life with my closest friend. I can travel and explore the world with him by my side. At 1am we can make dumb trips to Dairy Queen for a late night snack. We can dance in the rain, laugh till we cry, and eat pizza in our underwear. So if you think marrying "young" equates freedom lost, you are wrong. Trust me, I went against the odds and I'm happier than I could ever be. |
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